If I received a dollar every time a client told me that they married one of their parents, I would be a very rich woman. The truth of the matter is that we do marry one of our primary caretakers. Sorry, it’s the truth and this is why…
Did you ever meet someone for the first time and feel like you've known them your whole life? You are thrilled, and your first thought is that you’ve known them from a past life, or something. Well, it’s the something I want to address. We're attracted to our partners because they are familiar to us. They actually have qualities of one our primary caretakers whom we have the most issues with. And it will be through this relationship that we work out those issues in adulthood. Most often we set up very similar home lives to the ones we've experienced in childhood. I've always said that we spend most of our adulthood trying to get over our childhood and this is one of the ways we do it.
Question: What happens when we work out those issues with our partner and we are no longer blocked by them?
Answer: Often times those relationships come to an end. I know…this was as difficult for me to accept as I'm sure it is for you right now. The truth of the matter is that every relationship we engage in, we learn from, and these lessons add to our lives, helping us to grow into the people we were meant to be. If both partners grow, then the chances of them staying together increases.
Question: Do we ever find that one person who we don’t have to work out issues with?
Answer: Yes, only after we have worked out the issues that stand in the way of us developing into the amazing people we were meant to be.
Dr Donna XO
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Sunday, March 25, 2012
Sunday, March 18, 2012
HE LOVES ME, HE LOVES ME NOT
People talk about falling in and out of love all the time. The question is…do we really “fall” in and out of love, or is there more to it?
Let’s look at our behavior when we are “in love.” We are respectful, patient, kind, interested and helpful. We are happy, fun, adventurous, and open to many of our partner’s interests and curious of their feelings about a whole bunch of stuff.
Now let’s look at our behavior when we are “out of love.” We don’t seem to have patience for our partner and because of that we become disrespectful, uninterested, and not there often enough to be helpful. We become bored, the laughing seems to stop and we are not that interested in what our partner has to say. We start to ignore their feelings, focusing on our own, which often times turns into resentment.
Rather than the idea of falling in and out of love, I think what we fall in and out of is respect, kindness and patience.
Now, to blow your mind a little bit. When we fall in love we are actually falling in love with a reflection of ourselves that we see in our partners. So the next time you fall out of love take a look in the mirror and see if the bottom line here is that you have just fallen out of love with a part of yourself.
Dr Donna XO
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Let’s look at our behavior when we are “in love.” We are respectful, patient, kind, interested and helpful. We are happy, fun, adventurous, and open to many of our partner’s interests and curious of their feelings about a whole bunch of stuff.
Now let’s look at our behavior when we are “out of love.” We don’t seem to have patience for our partner and because of that we become disrespectful, uninterested, and not there often enough to be helpful. We become bored, the laughing seems to stop and we are not that interested in what our partner has to say. We start to ignore their feelings, focusing on our own, which often times turns into resentment.
Rather than the idea of falling in and out of love, I think what we fall in and out of is respect, kindness and patience.
Now, to blow your mind a little bit. When we fall in love we are actually falling in love with a reflection of ourselves that we see in our partners. So the next time you fall out of love take a look in the mirror and see if the bottom line here is that you have just fallen out of love with a part of yourself.
Dr Donna XO
Visit us on Twitter @TheDr_Donna
Tuesday, March 13, 2012
BECOME AN ATTRACTING MAGNET!
Did you ever meet a person who you love being around? They make you feel good. It’s as if the only person they see for that moment is you. Those people are “attracting magnets.” People are drawn to them because of the positive energy they put out into the world. Whether in business, friendship, or love, you can become an attracting magnet as well. Follow these three easy steps:
First, love yourself! We all tend to look at our faults and try to improve them. I say, look at your strengths and love yourself for them. There are so many wonderful things about you, focus on them, celebrate them, let them shine through you to others and people will be drawn to you.
Second, at night before going to sleep, take three deep breaths, and on the third breath visualize yourself being in the perfect relationship. Whether it’s love, career, or friendship, we all want to be loved and respected for who we are, not what we do. Visualize your best scenario as if you already have it. Enjoy the visual in as much detail as possible. Then let it go out into the Universe and fall off to sleep knowing that it is on it’s way back to you. Be open to all that comes your way and say “YES” to life. Smile…it tells the world you are ready for greatness.
Third, the next morning wake up being grateful for the awesome day that’s ahead of you. Expect what you have visualized and it will manifest. That’s how the Law Of Attraction works. It works for all of us, if we open ourselves to it.
Soooo…get on it!
Dr. Donna xo
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First, love yourself! We all tend to look at our faults and try to improve them. I say, look at your strengths and love yourself for them. There are so many wonderful things about you, focus on them, celebrate them, let them shine through you to others and people will be drawn to you.
Second, at night before going to sleep, take three deep breaths, and on the third breath visualize yourself being in the perfect relationship. Whether it’s love, career, or friendship, we all want to be loved and respected for who we are, not what we do. Visualize your best scenario as if you already have it. Enjoy the visual in as much detail as possible. Then let it go out into the Universe and fall off to sleep knowing that it is on it’s way back to you. Be open to all that comes your way and say “YES” to life. Smile…it tells the world you are ready for greatness.
Third, the next morning wake up being grateful for the awesome day that’s ahead of you. Expect what you have visualized and it will manifest. That’s how the Law Of Attraction works. It works for all of us, if we open ourselves to it.
Soooo…get on it!
Dr. Donna xo
Check us out on Twitter @theDr_Donna
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