Revenge…one of our most wasteful emotions seems to hold many of us captive with the misconception that after a misdeed has been inflicted upon us we will somehow feel better by…”getting even.” The need to “get even” eventually leads to behavior that ultimately will bring us to the emotion called regret. Revenge never leads to happiness, it most often leads to damages manifesting in the form of financial liability, innocent bystanders being hurt either emotionally or physically, and always knowing that we are just as bad as the original offender.
So what do you do when you are the victim of a misdeed? There is no question that turning the other cheek can often times be difficult. I don’t propose turning away but rather embracing the situation by voicing your feelings. Stand up for yourself; don’t let anyone get away with hurting you. Seek support from others around you if you must, but the best way of feeling better is to speak up for yourself, finding out what the other person was thinking and feeling when they chose to hurt you. React truthfully to them by first understanding what they were thinking when they committed the act in question and then explain to them how their behavior has affected you, and why.
What will happen next is that both of you will begin to understand the issue at hand and you both can start working through that issue. Don’t be surprised when an apology is quickly given, and trust that it is sincere.
If someone hurts you it is most often about them, their jealousy, insecurity, and fears. Help them to understand themselves and in doing so you will have grown and learned more about the amazing person you are, and were meant to be.
Dr. Donna XO
Visit us on Twitter @TheDr_Donna
Sunday, May 27, 2012
Sunday, April 1, 2012
"BREAKING UP IS HARD TO DO"
Yes it is! Because…when we break up with our significant other we focus on what we don’t want, not what we want. We focus on the pain, how we were mistreated, lied to, cheated on, etc.
What we need to do is focus on what we want. Focus our thoughts on having a partner who will complete us, compliment our strengths, share in our successes, and be patient with our weaknesses.
Instead of shedding tears over our loss, let's change that negative energy into positive energy by visualizing a happy, fulfilling, empowering relationship that provides us the latitude we need to grow into the people we were meant to be.
If your heart’s been broken, heal yourself by discovering the lessons learned in that relationship. What did that partner teach you about yourself? This is where you will learn and grow and bring that new knowledge into your next relationship making it healthier and happier.
We all know that the pain of a break up usually surfaces when we are alone, so the next time the tears start rolling take three deep breaths, close your eyes and allow your mind to take you to a future time when you are happy in love. Don’t visualize what you think will be that perfect partner, visualize yourself being happy, safe, and in love. Then allow those thoughts to go out into the Universe with the knowledge that you have been heard and love is on its way back to you!
Dr. Donna xo
Visit us on twitter @TheDr_Donna
What we need to do is focus on what we want. Focus our thoughts on having a partner who will complete us, compliment our strengths, share in our successes, and be patient with our weaknesses.
Instead of shedding tears over our loss, let's change that negative energy into positive energy by visualizing a happy, fulfilling, empowering relationship that provides us the latitude we need to grow into the people we were meant to be.
If your heart’s been broken, heal yourself by discovering the lessons learned in that relationship. What did that partner teach you about yourself? This is where you will learn and grow and bring that new knowledge into your next relationship making it healthier and happier.
We all know that the pain of a break up usually surfaces when we are alone, so the next time the tears start rolling take three deep breaths, close your eyes and allow your mind to take you to a future time when you are happy in love. Don’t visualize what you think will be that perfect partner, visualize yourself being happy, safe, and in love. Then allow those thoughts to go out into the Universe with the knowledge that you have been heard and love is on its way back to you!
Dr. Donna xo
Visit us on twitter @TheDr_Donna
Sunday, March 25, 2012
I MARRIED MY MOTHER! I MARRIED MY FATHER!
If I received a dollar every time a client told me that they married one of their parents, I would be a very rich woman. The truth of the matter is that we do marry one of our primary caretakers. Sorry, it’s the truth and this is why…
Did you ever meet someone for the first time and feel like you've known them your whole life? You are thrilled, and your first thought is that you’ve known them from a past life, or something. Well, it’s the something I want to address. We're attracted to our partners because they are familiar to us. They actually have qualities of one our primary caretakers whom we have the most issues with. And it will be through this relationship that we work out those issues in adulthood. Most often we set up very similar home lives to the ones we've experienced in childhood. I've always said that we spend most of our adulthood trying to get over our childhood and this is one of the ways we do it.
Question: What happens when we work out those issues with our partner and we are no longer blocked by them?
Answer: Often times those relationships come to an end. I know…this was as difficult for me to accept as I'm sure it is for you right now. The truth of the matter is that every relationship we engage in, we learn from, and these lessons add to our lives, helping us to grow into the people we were meant to be. If both partners grow, then the chances of them staying together increases.
Question: Do we ever find that one person who we don’t have to work out issues with?
Answer: Yes, only after we have worked out the issues that stand in the way of us developing into the amazing people we were meant to be.
Dr Donna XO
Visit us on Twitter @TheDr_Donna
Did you ever meet someone for the first time and feel like you've known them your whole life? You are thrilled, and your first thought is that you’ve known them from a past life, or something. Well, it’s the something I want to address. We're attracted to our partners because they are familiar to us. They actually have qualities of one our primary caretakers whom we have the most issues with. And it will be through this relationship that we work out those issues in adulthood. Most often we set up very similar home lives to the ones we've experienced in childhood. I've always said that we spend most of our adulthood trying to get over our childhood and this is one of the ways we do it.
Question: What happens when we work out those issues with our partner and we are no longer blocked by them?
Answer: Often times those relationships come to an end. I know…this was as difficult for me to accept as I'm sure it is for you right now. The truth of the matter is that every relationship we engage in, we learn from, and these lessons add to our lives, helping us to grow into the people we were meant to be. If both partners grow, then the chances of them staying together increases.
Question: Do we ever find that one person who we don’t have to work out issues with?
Answer: Yes, only after we have worked out the issues that stand in the way of us developing into the amazing people we were meant to be.
Dr Donna XO
Visit us on Twitter @TheDr_Donna
Sunday, March 18, 2012
HE LOVES ME, HE LOVES ME NOT
People talk about falling in and out of love all the time. The question is…do we really “fall” in and out of love, or is there more to it?
Let’s look at our behavior when we are “in love.” We are respectful, patient, kind, interested and helpful. We are happy, fun, adventurous, and open to many of our partner’s interests and curious of their feelings about a whole bunch of stuff.
Now let’s look at our behavior when we are “out of love.” We don’t seem to have patience for our partner and because of that we become disrespectful, uninterested, and not there often enough to be helpful. We become bored, the laughing seems to stop and we are not that interested in what our partner has to say. We start to ignore their feelings, focusing on our own, which often times turns into resentment.
Rather than the idea of falling in and out of love, I think what we fall in and out of is respect, kindness and patience.
Now, to blow your mind a little bit. When we fall in love we are actually falling in love with a reflection of ourselves that we see in our partners. So the next time you fall out of love take a look in the mirror and see if the bottom line here is that you have just fallen out of love with a part of yourself.
Dr Donna XO
Visit us on Twitter @TheDr_Donna
Let’s look at our behavior when we are “in love.” We are respectful, patient, kind, interested and helpful. We are happy, fun, adventurous, and open to many of our partner’s interests and curious of their feelings about a whole bunch of stuff.
Now let’s look at our behavior when we are “out of love.” We don’t seem to have patience for our partner and because of that we become disrespectful, uninterested, and not there often enough to be helpful. We become bored, the laughing seems to stop and we are not that interested in what our partner has to say. We start to ignore their feelings, focusing on our own, which often times turns into resentment.
Rather than the idea of falling in and out of love, I think what we fall in and out of is respect, kindness and patience.
Now, to blow your mind a little bit. When we fall in love we are actually falling in love with a reflection of ourselves that we see in our partners. So the next time you fall out of love take a look in the mirror and see if the bottom line here is that you have just fallen out of love with a part of yourself.
Dr Donna XO
Visit us on Twitter @TheDr_Donna
Tuesday, March 13, 2012
BECOME AN ATTRACTING MAGNET!
Did you ever meet a person who you love being around? They make you feel good. It’s as if the only person they see for that moment is you. Those people are “attracting magnets.” People are drawn to them because of the positive energy they put out into the world. Whether in business, friendship, or love, you can become an attracting magnet as well. Follow these three easy steps:
First, love yourself! We all tend to look at our faults and try to improve them. I say, look at your strengths and love yourself for them. There are so many wonderful things about you, focus on them, celebrate them, let them shine through you to others and people will be drawn to you.
Second, at night before going to sleep, take three deep breaths, and on the third breath visualize yourself being in the perfect relationship. Whether it’s love, career, or friendship, we all want to be loved and respected for who we are, not what we do. Visualize your best scenario as if you already have it. Enjoy the visual in as much detail as possible. Then let it go out into the Universe and fall off to sleep knowing that it is on it’s way back to you. Be open to all that comes your way and say “YES” to life. Smile…it tells the world you are ready for greatness.
Third, the next morning wake up being grateful for the awesome day that’s ahead of you. Expect what you have visualized and it will manifest. That’s how the Law Of Attraction works. It works for all of us, if we open ourselves to it.
Soooo…get on it!
Dr. Donna xo
Check us out on Twitter @theDr_Donna
First, love yourself! We all tend to look at our faults and try to improve them. I say, look at your strengths and love yourself for them. There are so many wonderful things about you, focus on them, celebrate them, let them shine through you to others and people will be drawn to you.
Second, at night before going to sleep, take three deep breaths, and on the third breath visualize yourself being in the perfect relationship. Whether it’s love, career, or friendship, we all want to be loved and respected for who we are, not what we do. Visualize your best scenario as if you already have it. Enjoy the visual in as much detail as possible. Then let it go out into the Universe and fall off to sleep knowing that it is on it’s way back to you. Be open to all that comes your way and say “YES” to life. Smile…it tells the world you are ready for greatness.
Third, the next morning wake up being grateful for the awesome day that’s ahead of you. Expect what you have visualized and it will manifest. That’s how the Law Of Attraction works. It works for all of us, if we open ourselves to it.
Soooo…get on it!
Dr. Donna xo
Check us out on Twitter @theDr_Donna
Thursday, February 23, 2012
ACTING AS IF...
If you’ve been following me on Twitter recently you would have read about the big discussion regarding “acting as if” your dreams have already manifested. "Acting as if" may feel like you’re lying to yourself but try looking at it as preparing for your future.
Don’t dress for the job you have today, dress for the job you want tomorrow. You will be noticed by those in authority and your life will change. You are intentionally moving the energy toward your goal.
Do you want love in your life? Start by loving yourself. People are attracted by those who are lovable. Act as if you are in love. Be in love with life, the future that is on its way, the people you will be meeting who will introduce you to your perfect mate. Be the person you want to love and love will find you!
You want to be happy? Do just that, be happy! Be happy for where you are in life knowing that you need to be exactly where you are today in order to get to where you want to be tomorrow.
Breath, relax and smile…act as if...and it will happen!
Dr. Donna xo
Check us out on Twitter @theDr_Donna
Don’t dress for the job you have today, dress for the job you want tomorrow. You will be noticed by those in authority and your life will change. You are intentionally moving the energy toward your goal.
Do you want love in your life? Start by loving yourself. People are attracted by those who are lovable. Act as if you are in love. Be in love with life, the future that is on its way, the people you will be meeting who will introduce you to your perfect mate. Be the person you want to love and love will find you!
You want to be happy? Do just that, be happy! Be happy for where you are in life knowing that you need to be exactly where you are today in order to get to where you want to be tomorrow.
Breath, relax and smile…act as if...and it will happen!
Dr. Donna xo
Check us out on Twitter @theDr_Donna
Tuesday, January 31, 2012
Happy New Year 2012!
It's been exactly one year since my last blog...my how time flies. I've spent the past year working with writers on my show "Necessary Roughness" and it sure has been a learning experience. Breaking stories, developing them, filming, editing, adding sound and special effects, all leading to the actual airing of 11 episodes for season one. Then the hardest part...waiting for the pick-up of season two. The announcement came after the last day of production and smiles on everyone's faces appeared as it was announced that not only were we picked up for a second season, we were picked up for 16 episodes! Awesome!!
But nothing was more incredible than Callie Thorne's nomination for the Golden Globe Awards as best actress in a Drama. Wow, what a way to start off the New Year.
So what's next on the horizon for Dr. Donna? A talk show? An internet gig?? Stay tuned for the February blog...we might know by then :)
Dreams do come true if you believe! Remember, act as if your dream has already happened. That's how the manifestation begins, with a thought and a belief.
Next month we will list what one does to act as if your dream has already come true and how to move the energy toward your goal.
This year is your year...let's work together on making your dreams come true!
Dr. Donna xo
But nothing was more incredible than Callie Thorne's nomination for the Golden Globe Awards as best actress in a Drama. Wow, what a way to start off the New Year.
So what's next on the horizon for Dr. Donna? A talk show? An internet gig?? Stay tuned for the February blog...we might know by then :)
Dreams do come true if you believe! Remember, act as if your dream has already happened. That's how the manifestation begins, with a thought and a belief.
Next month we will list what one does to act as if your dream has already come true and how to move the energy toward your goal.
This year is your year...let's work together on making your dreams come true!
Dr. Donna xo
Subscribe to:
Posts (Atom)